7 Things to Avoid Doing When You Argue With Your Partner

Lifestyle  |  March 20, 2017
  • 1. Pointing fingers and namecalling
    1 / 7 1. Pointing fingers and namecalling

    Tempting as it may be, it’s not going to solve the problem. Instead, it’ll probably get the other party on a defensive mode and not listen to what you have to say altogether. Your focus should be on resolving the issue, not pushing the blame. Pause, think and reflect. If it’s because of your own insecurities or if you are the one at fault, express your feelings to your partner, and apologise.

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  • 2. Don't post it up on social media
    2 / 7 2. Don't post it up on social media

    Why air your dirty laundry on the Internet? It isn’t just embarrassing, it makes it hard for you to take back words said in a moment of anger when it’s out there for all to see. If you have to talk to someone about it, make it your closest friends or family members.

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  • 3. Scream at each other
    3 / 7 3. Scream at each other

    Raising your voice, or hurling abusive language can only serve to escalate the situation, and also embarrass your partner, especially if you’re in public. Be mindful of what you say too – deliberately using hurtful remarks will sting long after the fight has been settled. Plus, a relationship should be one based on love and respect – and verbal abuse is definitely not respecting your partner.

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  • 4. Hit or throw things at each other
    4 / 7 4. Hit or throw things at each other

    Physical abuse is never alright. Apart from it being an offence, it also creates fear and begets either retaliation or further violence- not the recipe for a healthy relationship.

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  • 5. Bring up the past
    5 / 7 5. Bring up the past

    Fight fair. Bringing up past discords or missteps, especially when you had earlier let the matter rest, breeds resentment. 

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  • 6. Don't ignore the problem or accept the blame just for the sake of ending it
    6 / 7 6. Don't ignore the problem or accept the blame just for the sake of ending it

    Shoving it under the rug, or taking responsibility for the blame will build up the bitterness, and one day, you’ll snap – and your spouse won’t even understand where you’re coming from. 

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  • 7. Don't guilt trip or threaten the other party
    7 / 7 7. Don't guilt trip or threaten the other party

    Nobody likes being on the receiving end of emotional blackmail or an ultimatum so don’t be the one to dish it out. Expressing your feelings is key to a healthy relationship but not at the expense of making your partner feel guilty to get what you want.

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